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9 Buffet Tips That Can Be Applied To Life

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Even if the menu says ‘All you can eat‘, what you get out of the meal is largely up to you.  Much as is the case with life. Like the generous spread on offer at a lavish buffet, we are offered a wide variety of experiences.  And just as we can navigate the meal in different ways with varying consequences, so it is with life.  It has taken me a while to learn the ‘art of eating at buffets’ and I felt many things understood there are equally relevant to the way we move through life.  So here are 9 parallels one could draw between enjoying such meals and life:

  1.  Run a quick survey first:  Instead of loading up the plate from the start, an observant glance around the table will give a good idea of what is on offer.  While it may be tempting to think one can sample it all, going by the number of dishes put out on the average buffet these days, it would be wise to be more discerning.  Similarly, there are number of interests and experiences available out there, but realistically, we cannot sample them all.  Having a general sense of what you would definitely like towards the top of your list and what you can live without is a useful place to start.
  2. Decide what you don’t want:  The older ideas of sampling a spoonful of everything before deciding on the mains is now simply impractical.  You will either end up overeating or be too full to really dive deep into the flavors that appeal to you.  The body knows what it would like and what is good for it.  Those inclined can learn muscle testing to quickly and discretely discover what would work for them.  In life, mindfulness can just as easily guide us as to what would be appropriate for us.  The thoughtful pause is extremely useful in making conscious choice a way of being.
  3. All that glitters is not gold:  Attractive looking dishes may not make for the healthiest of food.  Artificial colors, additives and unhealthy ingredients can often look appealing but prove costly in the long run.  Which one of us has not had difficulty in resisting temptations in life?  But here too, short term indulgences can lead to expensive, long term consequences.  Sometimes the best things appear simple and you may miss their true merit if you go by appearance alone.  Weigh the pros and cons carefully.
  4. Don’t be afraid to explore: Bearing in mind the above, you can still experiment with the unfamiliar and unknown.  We tend to stick to old favorites, even checking the spread with an intention of finding what we liked the last time.  Be open to discovering something new.  If you never ask ‘What is good and new?‘, something fresh and wonderful may be under your nose, but you wouldn’t see it.  We often need to unlearn our old ideas in order to see radical shifts in our lives.
  5. Choose quality over quantity:  Anything in excess can prove detrimental to one’s health.  Selective portions of pleasing items can appease the taste buds and yet not be excessive.  We can practice the same discernment in life, displaying a wise moderation in our choice of activities and behaviors.
  6.  Make room for your favorites:  I have no qualms about having a sweet tooth.  So I ensure that I have a look at the desserts section at the very beginning and adjust my other intake accordingly.  I feel the same way about making room for sweetness in life.  There is no point in filling our hours with activities (or the lack of it) and depriving ourselves of whatever it is that really makes us come alive.
  7. Remember tastes differ:  One man’s meat is another man’s poison.  The beauty of having so much diversity on offer is that everyone is free to enjoy what suits them.  This is also true about diets, religion, philosophy, healing techniques and so on.  So live and let live.
  8. Value everything:  People seem to believe that the only way to get value for an expensive meal is to overeat.  Which implies that the only thing you are valuing is the quantity.  Whereas you are actually also availing of taste, ambiance, space, comfort, pampering and so on.  So don’t worry about stuffing yourself, but do make sure you appreciate the finer nuances of the dining experience.  Ever seen the modern day, typical tourist?  They seem so busy clicking pictures to take home ‘memories’ (or demonstrable evidence of their travels), that they forget to actually experience memorable moments.  Don’t pass through life blind to all the gifts it offers you.  The moment you widen the scope of what you value, you will find yourself appreciating each experience with a new depth and sincerity.
  9. Appreciate generously:  A lot of painstaking effort goes on behind the scenes, to make possible your heavenly dining experience.  If you like something in particular, do make it a point to pass on your compliments.  Look around you and notice how many people have contributed towards whatever joy you are experiencing today.  Have you thanked them for it?

What insights have you gained from your own buffet outings?  Do share your comments below.

 

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Are you nourishing yourself?

My client is a diabetic.  When I asked him about his relationship with food, he was surprised by my question.   He said he takes no interest in food.  He has no liking for it.  He confessed that the last time he relished a meal was 10 years ago, when he went on a holiday with friends.  For ten years, he has had absolutely no interest, curiosity or appreciation for the healthy food his wife cooks for him.  He says that expensive, fresh fruit lie before him, but he will not eat it, despite knowing it is good for him.  Meals are treated like inconvenient necessities. During the meal itself, his attention is continually on his business, or on the television news.  “Further,” he added, “I often repeat to my children stories of our difficult times, when having food on the table was a challenge. I have to say I tend to emphasize the poverty rather than any gratitude for today.”

He went on, “For that matter, I have lost touch with all friends.  I have no hobbies and I don’t take interest in grooming myself either.   I just don’t seem to care for myself at all.”  He was stunned by all that had been triggered by my one question.

Our attitude towards food is a great metaphor for the extent of nourishment and nurturing that we allow our self.  Just like the air we breathe, these inputs are what allow us to enjoy a healthy life.  If we treat it with casual disdain, or even worse, an inconvenience that we somehow have to get over and done with, what degree of self care and benefits are we affording ourselves?

Because he had recently purchased Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, I asked him if he had read the affirmation suggested for diabetes.  With a sheepish look, he confessed he hadn’t.  I shared it:  “This moment is filled with joy. I now choose to experience the sweetness of today.”  

In the last session, he had successfully learnt how to use EFT to get himself to exercise on a daily basis.  We now discussed how he can shift his relationship with food using EFT and awareness.

I would be happy if this article were to provoke a similar self appraisal for other readers.  Any issues that arise out of such introspection can be addressed through a conscious shift in habits.  If required, you may like to try EFT for yourself.   You can download a free one-pager here, or get my book Emotional Freedom Techniques.

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How are water crystals and EFT relevant to your meal? (EFT script)

“Thank you for the food we eat…”

 

For  those who are familiar with Masaru Emoto’s work, you would have seen the beautiful images he has captured of water crystals, after exposing the water to words like love and gratitude, or after prayer.  Quoting from his website: “The result was that we always observed beautiful crystals after giving good words, playing good music, and showing, playing, or offering pure prayer to water. On the other hand, we observed disfigured crystals in the opposite situation.

Given this dramatic demonstration of change in physical structure, due consideration should be given to the energy with which we cook and the practice of prayer/grace/thanks before our meals.  Just as we are 60% to 70% water ourselves, our food also has a high water content.  In today’s hectic world, we tend to eat in a rush, scattered and absent minded, or worse still, while watching television which may be bombarding you with more depressing news and horrors.  

Isn’t all this going to impact what nourishment we receive out of it?

I am most gladdened to know people who are conscious of such impacts.  The Aman Setu School at Pune is a school with a different approach than most.  One of the things that they do differently, is that they have incorporated mindfulness and Emotional Freedom Techniques into their  daily routine.  EFT works at a deep level, harmonizing energies as well as addressing the mind.  They have been using my ‘EFT for Juniors’ script on a regular basis with the children.  This school year, I was delighted to receive a request from the school for an EFT script to be tapped in before meals.  So I promptly sent them one and it is now being enjoyed twice a day at the school.

If you would like to learn more about EFT, please see my book: Emotional Freedom Techniques,  or download the free EFT Basic Recipe  to give this script a try.  While it is not advisable to practice any energy healing technique immediately after food, tapping this in just before your meal is very likely to change your experience for the better 🙂

 

Karate Chop left               As I sit down to eat
Karate Chop right             I am thankful for all those who made this                                                 treat
Eyebrow                             The sun that poured in all its strength
Side of the Eye                  The water that helped it grow
Under the Eye                   The earth that nurtured and cared
Under the Nose & Chin   And the fire that cooked it slow
Collarbone                         So many have worked from dawn to dusk
Under the Arm                 Birds and butterflies, cows and                                                                      earthworms, too!
Wrists                                The farmer, the shopkeepers, the driver,                                                    the talented cooks
Back of hands                   All their efforts have brought me this                                                         healthy meal
Top of head                      And I now gratefully enjoy this tasty feast

 

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